“My Mother, My Idol”

Len: Dear “My Mother, my idol”……….. Your story is such a touching one and so beautifully told. Thank you for sharing it. My guess is that you have been and continue to be a wonderful child. Listen to Cliff’s advice in terms of having your mother receive a thorough assessment from a qualified specialist. Information […]

My mother my idol

“My Mother, my idol”…..  I looked up to my mother, one who knew everything, always had a solution to everyday problems, a pianist, an opera singer, a community volunteer, involved in social causes and supportive of her six children’s dreams and accomplishments.  That is (was) my mother!  Without fear, she would prepare gourmet meals for […]


My 75 year old aunt is very fearful about developing dementia because her father developed Alzheimer’s in his late seventies.  She is energetic, very engaged in her community, stays physically active, and eats a healthy plant-based diet.  She is an avid reader and pays close attention to research about maintaining brain health.  To me, her […]

“Somewhat Shy”

I am in my 60′s and would really like to start dating again. I have been single/divorced for many years.I am confident professionally, but somewhat shy socially.  I don’t even know how to flirt to get started.What are your thoughts on online dating services to find a mate? Dear “Somewhat Shy”: This is Len. I […]


My father recently went into the VA Skilled Unit because he had been hospitalized for forgetting to take his insulin and heart medicine.  My father is 94 years old, has lived alone and taken care of himself for many years, he is incredibly healthy even though he has a heart condition.  His memory is failing. […]


Len and I received an emailed question from a Blog reader last week regarding an elderly relative in assisted living. This person asked a really good question (as we recall) and ended with “Help!”. We would love to try, but the email was deleted before we could respond on the Blog site. Who ever submitted this […]

From “Frustrated Daughter”

Dear Cliff and Len: My parents are in their mid sixties and seem intent on spending their retirement in front of the TV. They have few hobbies, rarely volunteer their time in the community, and shy aware from any occasions that will cause them to break with their stay-at-home routine. Neither have a regular exercise […]

Aging. It happens to everybody.

Aging. It happens to everybody. Kids want to speed it up; adults want to slow it down. And if a person is fortunate enough to age a long time, old age creates challenges. Aging brings challenges not only for the older adult, but often for those who love them. It can be hard to find […]